So what screws us up most is the pictures in our head of how things supposed to be..
Our own limitations set the main boundaries and we fail to perceive how actually things have to be. And that so-called "Big Picture" misleads. The typical allurement, incentive booster, prohesier. But lacking the main important part. Significant puzzle piece that we always miss - Reality.
Imagine how many things we have already mastered, how many of them are left unknown and how many things yet we have to discover and learn.
Moreover, no age can ever determine the time to really stop learning. No experience can ever determine sufficiency of knowledge. It is never enough to learn just as it is never late to start. The only time you feel confident is when you change learning mode to the teaching one. And than the real journey starts.
A quotation by Aristotle :
"Educating the mind without educating the heart is no education at all"
Actually, it's all our mind that treats heart like a temple. Really. What mind creates, heart supports. They do their work undeniably great. But only together. Just don't separate them.
Voici, l'exception of Learning theory :
There's only one thing that never requires any special skill and permission to learn. Thanks to Lord, it is an automatic process. Yes. Totally au-to-ma-tic. No reason to blame our heart. Pride is the one to blame. It is the longest distance between two people. Learned skills, wasted efforts, crashed dreams. You and your pride is responsible. Try to get rid of it if your dreams are higher than your current altitude.
Well, Truth about Love lies on a precious moment with tiny and important details of our life...
" A kind face... Similar one.... Voice that sings every night lullabies.... but....Not a singer. Reads fairytales... But... Not a narrater... Knows everything.... But not a teacher. Beautiful, transparent, protective... like a glass.... but.... easy to shatter...."
"Hugging tight, whispering affection, kissing forehead and wishing "sweet dreams" to a little flame that lightens her whole world.."
Exitence of Love lies on tiny details that we barely notice.
Remembered, right?
How can you underestimate that woman ...
"That woman.
When you fall she holds you up and tells oneday you will fly. When you cry she wipes your tears away hiding her own for the darkest nights. Feeds you up even when starving herself. Teaches you never to give up. Smiles even when grieving inside. You might be never good enough just because she wants you to be the best. And She loves you unconditionally even when you brake the things you never mend. She is the Love. The origin of the feeling you describe as an extraordinary state of mind is actually a live body that sacrifices her life on growing a little flame to oneday melt Icebergs and taste crystal clear waters.. safely.."
Do you know why I used present tense? Deliberately. I described neither a past nor a future. Apparently. Because she is the one ready to do it all again for you. Now. When everyone abandons. Even if you are a parent yourself. Being a mother is a lifelong job (far the best one) and it won't just finalize after eigteen years of hard work, sacrifice and stamina.
We know that Love & Happiness collide. But who knows that most of the time, Happiness depends upon ourselves.. Maybe it is not always about the happy ending, maybe it is about the story you create. Preferences are up to you! No matter happy or whatever it is, do you really want an Ending?
Once upon a casual day, I've been asked if I've ever had a first love or if I've ever experienced true love. Well, all of a sudden, my answer was :
"Yes..."
When I told them for me love isn't just a feeling between two individual but it is somehow deeper than a certain emotion you distinguish, I saw baffled faces staring at me.
"Well, I can show you Love in a bowl, in a picture, in a place and even in a flower and you would be shocked that you have never spotted its proximity. Got the picture?"
You know, I will never forget that discontentedness on their eyes. Of course, A tradition. First love, first kiss, listed boyfriends. I know and I value them as well. But my answer was a story long rather than a random Yes.
So, I experienced love ( and I bet just like you all ). My mother taught me to love unconditionally. She taught me to take care of those who can't take their care themselves. She taught me to love the things others scarcely notice. And she taught me to love only the one who really deserves it.
In my point of view, the very first but true Love should be considered the Innocent one. Not the actual first love. Teenage dreams. As you flash back to past, you see that they weren't sure-enough. First Love is the one reflecting trust, respect and affection without a typical return on. You know what I mean. And for me that Love is my mother. My Angel. Without recalling her, I'm not able to describe my first expressions about love. Because otherwise it won't be Innocent.
Back to the main point, anyhow we describe Love , we can't reject its corporality and influence . Anything we call Love is as diverse as the way we experience it. Quite coherent.
Too many How To's out there.. But have you ever searched ways on how to LOVE? (If you have ever needed it, of course.)
Than, do we really know everything about the exact feeling called Love?
Oh , the books had already been written, songs had already been sang, movies had already been shot about Love ( You know, millions had already been earned too ).
But ideologies and comprehensibilities got stuck in a traffic jam.
We are fully capable of to identify a fake and genuine IPhone, Chanel Bag and Twitter account ( with eyes closed). But I guess, we are not able to identify fake and genuine Love. It requires advanced strategies and skills to sort out the Genuine. With one word, It requires proficiency.
As the centuries pass, not only surroundings change but also we alter. And now, people won't just die for love but reckon it as a commitment of suicide. They won't chase the rainbows in their mind and risk the time and location to find their true soulmate. They would rather stick to a social network that buries away Love. Rather than writing their feelings down and sending an expressive letter to the loved one it's preferred to just casually click the send button.
But you know , that's the way we are.
Paris is yet thousand miles away, Titanic was just a movie, Shakespeare will never be borned again and Fitzgerald's letters to his wife are on museums.
So, um, I call it :
"An attempt to discover the full description and interpretation of Love by a non-experienced researcher"
As a rule of thumb, gonna be typing the key word on a search engine and gonna be waiting a little....a little.
Voilà!
- This article is about the General Concept of Love:
"Love is a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes that ranges from interpersonal affection ("I love my mother") to pleasure ("I loved that meal"). It can refer to an emotion of a strong attraction and personal attachment. It can also be avirtue representing human kindness, compassion, and affection—"the unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another". It may also describe compassionate and affectionate actions towards other humans, one's self or animals.
Non-Western traditions have also distinguished variants or symbioses of these states. This diversity of uses and meanings combined with the complexity of the feelings involved makes love unusually difficult to consistently define, compared to other emotional states."
- It is the main quiddity of life that doesn't make the world go round. It is what makes the ride worthwhile ( from Franklin P. Jones, I guess)
"The word "love" can have a variety of related but distinct meanings in different contexts. Many other languages use multiple words to express some of the different concepts that in English are denoted as "love"; one example is the plurality of Greek words for "love" which includes agapeand eros. Cultural differences in conceptualizing love thus doubly impede the establishment of a universal definition.
Although the nature or essence of love is a subject of frequent debate, different aspects of the word can be clarified by determining what isn't love. "
- What isn't love is what we call love most of the time. Love isn't lust. Love is trust and all the perfect combination of feelings that creates it.
"Love as a general expression of positive sentiment (a stronger form of like) is commonly contrasted with hate (or neutral apathy); as a less sexual and more emotionally intimate form of romantic attachment, love is commonly contrasted with lust; and as an interpersonal relationship with romantic overtones, love is sometimes contrasted with friendship, although the word love is often applied to close friendships."
- Sweeter the Love is, Bitter the Opposite is. Sure thing.
Agonizing to know that love only sometimes is being contrasted with friendship and even when it is, "Friend" part drifts apart from "Ship". Peculiar.
"The complex and abstract nature of love often reduces discourse of love to a thought-terminating cliché. Several common proverbs regard love, from Virgil's "Love conquers all" to The Beatles' "All You Need Is Love". St. Thomas Aquinas, defines love as "to will the good of another. Bertrand Russell describes love as a condition of "absolute value," as opposed to relative value. Philosopher Gottfried Leibniz said that love is "to be delighted by the happiness of another. Meher Baba stated that in love there is a "feeling of unity" and an "active appreciation of the intrinsic worth of the object of love. Biologist Jeremy Griffith defines love as "unconditional selflessness".
- Platitudes.. Yes. But in fact, they are keepsakers of Genuine Love.
Conception and Interpretation of Love can be found on books. It can be found on places. It can be found on a paper and on a picture.
- Impersonal love:
" A person can be said to love an object, principle, or goal to which they are deeply committed and greatly value. For example, compassionate outreach and volunteer workers' "love" of their cause may sometimes be born not of interpersonal love but impersonal love, altruism, and strong spiritual or political convictions. People can also "love" material objects, animals, or activities if they invest themselves in bonding or otherwise identifying with those things."
- Interpersonal love :
" Interpersonal love refers to love between human beings. It is a much more potent sentiment than a simple liking for another. Unrequited love refers to those feelings of love that are not reciprocated. Interpersonal love is most closely associated with interpersonal relationships. Such love might exist between family members, friends, and couples."
Oh, Love can be found on places...
Yes, Love sometimes walks down the streets of Paris and blows kisses from Eiffel.
Originally from Greece traveling all along Provence and Paris , it warms up the whole world like a Scorching Sun.
"My room is dark, and Étienne wraps his arms back around me. We listen to the opera singer in a peaceful silence. I’m surprised by how much I’ll miss France. Atlanta was home for almost eighteen years, and though I’ve only known Paris for the last nine months, it’s changed me. I have a new city to learn next year, but I’m not scared. Because I was right. For the two of us, home isn’t a place. It’s a person. And we’re finally home."
- ( Anna and the French kiss, Stephanie Perkins)
Imagine it :
~ Home, Sweet Home. A coffee, favorite book , background music (preferably something from Ella Fitzgerald) and a comfy sofa in front of a window viewing countryside "Tranquility". ~
See? How powerful feelings you can recall by just imagining....
Love is the only inspiration which is in power of to create a masterpiece and the only motivation that is in power of to make it recognized. Love is what made them to write it all that now we worship and idolize.
Love is not love
Which alters when it alteration finds,
Or bends with the remover to remove.
Love is an ever-fixed mark
That looks on tempests and is never shaken;
It is the star to every wandering bark,
Whose worth's unknown, although his height be taken.
(William Shakespeare, Sonnet 116, 1609)
"I have said before that metaphors are dangerous,"
Milan Kundera wrote in "The Unbearable Lightness of Being" that " Love begins with a metaphor."
But he might have added that love sometimes ends with a metaphor as well too.
So, let's see what is next ...
The Guardian:
"What is love" was the most searched phrase on Google in 2012, according to the company. In an attempt to get to the bottom of the question once and for all, the Guardian has gathered writers from the fields of science, psychotherapy, literature, religion and philosophy to give their definition of the much-pondered word."
Here the Five theories on the greatest emotion of all times:
- what is Love?
1. The physicist: 'Love is chemistry' by Jim Al-Khalili
"Biologically, love is a powerful neurological condition like hunger or thirst, only more permanent. We talk about love being blind or unconditional, in the sense that we have no control over it. But then, that is not so surprising since love is basically chemistry. While lust is a temporary passionate sexual desire involving the increased release of chemicals such as testosterone and oestrogen, in true love, or attachment and bonding, the brain can release a whole set of chemicals: pheromones, dopamine, norepinephrine, serotonin, oxytocin and vasopressin. However, from an evolutionary perspective, love can be viewed as a survival tool – a mechanism we have evolved to promote long-term relationships, mutual defence and parental support of children and to promote feelings of safety and security."
- Jim Al-Khalili is a theoretical physicist and science writer
2. The psychotherapist: 'Love has many guises' by Philippa Perry ( guardian.co.uk )
Unlike us, the ancients did not lump all the various emotions that we label "love" under the one word. They had several variations, including:
Philia which they saw as a deep but usually non-sexual intimacy between close friends and family members or as a deep bond forged by soldiers as they fought alongside each other in battle. Ludus describes a more playful affection found in fooling around or flirting. Pragma is the mature love that develops over a long period of time between long-term couples and involves actively practising goodwill, commitment, compromise and understanding. Agape is a more generalised love, it's not about exclusivity but about love for all of humanity. Philautia is self love, which isn't as selfish as it sounds. As Aristotle discovered and as any psychotherapist will tell you, in order to care for others you need to be able to care about yourself. Last, and probably least even though it causes the most trouble, eros is about sexual passion and desire. Unless it morphs into philia and/or pragma, eros will burn itself out.
Love is all of the above. But is it possibly unrealistic to expect to experience all six types with only one person. This is why family and community are important.
• Philippa Perry is a psychotherapist and author of Couch Fiction
3. The philosopher: 'Love is a passionate commitment' by Julian Baggini Public domain
The answer remains elusive in part because love is not one thing. Love for parents, partners, children, country, neighbour, God and so on all have different qualities. Each has its variants – blind, one-sided, tragic, steadfast, fickle, reciprocated, misguided, unconditional. At its best, however, all love is a kind a passionate commitment that we nurture and develop, even though it usually arrives in our lives unbidden. That's why it is more than just a powerful feeling. Without the commitment, it is mere infatuation. Without the passion, it is mere dedication. Without nurturing, even the best can wither and die.
• Julian Baggini is a philosopher and writer
4. The romantic novelist: 'Love drives all great stories' by Jojo Moyes ( guardian.co.uk l
What love is depends on where you are in relation to it. Secure in it, it can feel as mundane and necessary as air – you exist within it, almost unnoticing. Deprived of it, it can feel like an obsession; all consuming, a physical pain. Love is the driver for all great stories: not just romantic love, but the love of parent for child, for family, for country. It is the point before consummation of it that fascinates: what separates you from love, the obstacles that stand in its way. It is usually at those points that love is everything.
• Jojo Moyes is a two-time winner of the Romantic Novel of the Year award
5. The nun: 'Love is free yet binds us' by Catherine Wybourne
Love is more easily experienced than defined. As a theological virtue, by which we love God above all things and our neighbours as ourselves for his sake, it seems remote until we encounter it enfleshed, so to say, in the life of another – in acts of kindness, generosity and self-sacrifice. Love's the one thing that can never hurt anyone, although it may cost dearly. The paradox of love is that it is supremely free yet attaches us with bonds stronger than death. It cannot be bought or sold; there is nothing it cannot face; love is life's greatest blessing.
• Catherine Wybourne is a Benedictine nun
Five professionals with five diverse points of views and with just one aim ; Giving us the answer of "What is Love".
And it turns out that Love is many things. But it is never deceitful. Nothing toxic comes from a Genuine Love.
Let's Examine If It is Love :
Is your heart racing? and is your voice caught within your chest? it isn't love, it is like.
You can`t keep your eyes or hands off them ? it isn't love, it is lust.
Are you proud and eager to show them off? it isn't love, it is luck.
Do you want them because you know they`re there? It isn't love, it is loneliness.
Are you there just beacuse it's what everyone wants? it isn't love, it is loyalty.
Do you stay for their confessions of love, because you don't want to hurt them? it isn't love, it is pity.
Are you willing to give all of your favorite things for their sake? it isn't love, it is charity.
Are you there because they kissed you, or held your hand? it isn't love, it is insecurity.
Do you forgive their faults because you care about them? it isn't love, it is friendship.
Do you tell them everyday they are the only one you think of? it isn't love, it Is a LIE.
But do you except there faults because they are a part of who you are? Do you see their true heart, and touch your soul so deeply it hurts? Are you attracted to others, but stay with them faithfully without regret? Would you give them your heart, your life, your death and stay because a blinding in comprehensible mix of pain and elation pulls you close and holds you?
now that's LOVE......Genuine one. "
And "love never fails..."
A single well-chosen word can define whole beauty of an emotion.
But if we are talking about Love than words are just impuissant when the only powerful word itself is Love.
"One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: That word is Love."
Most of the time, love gets its apex power only if trust is the first force applied to it. Just like four forces acting on an airplane. Lift, weight, drag and thrust. I call them magic.
Airplanes are another sort of Love. You never afraid from flight but you afraid from crashing. And you never afraid from Love, but you afraid from being hurt.
And to love, first you have to rely on. Not on your work, money or social status.
I mean on those who will be there for you when you lose your work, money or social status.
Nevertheless don't underestimate money.
They say "Money can't buy happiness" because they are not smart enough to realize that you buy chocolate with money. Logic matters. Yes.
The only thing you need to spread is Love. The only thing you don't need to waste is Love. The only thing you need to share is Love. Because Love is the only peace this universe lacks. Call them Philanthropists if it is Love what they give. Love is what we need.
Water? No problem. Food? We can find it since we discovered Love inside of us. The only thing that can save the world is Love. No beauty, yet no money.
But Love.
God is the love. ( One who believes in God, he surely knows why. )
Family is the Love. ( As I mentioned before, "That Woman" is the origin of Love )
Sweetie little angels that lighten our world are the Love. ( They are )
Earth is the Love. ( New York, London, Moscow or Warsaw, no matter where you live, it is your very own Paris. And anyway, airplanes are invented for us )
You are the Love. I am the love. ( Deep down, everyone , even the evilest one got a little space for Love. Value yourself and others )
You want me to write the full list? Non, mon chéri! I'm not going to. Because you know it better than me.
Isolate yourself from this page up for a moment. Introspect and analyze. Your life. Clear up your vision, love is all around you. Get wind of its proximity. You have already got the Love!
"L'amour est partout!"
Of course, all of us got a different story to share on how we discovered this feeling called Love..
But importance is, We Discovered it!
And It is never late or early for you if you haven't discovered it yet. No matter if you are 14, 23 ,30, 59 or 99, love will change the way you see the world!
With Love,
Aiden SummerDaisy.
Note: All Illustrated Pictures are hand painted by me on a tablet. Thanks for your patience.
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